Why Men Should Care About Rape
Because men know survivors. At some point in every man's
life, someone close to him will likely disclose that they
are a survivor of sexual violence. Men must be prepared to
respond with sensitivity, compassion and understanding.
Ignorance on the part of men can only hinder the
healing process and may even contribute to the survivor
feeling even more victimized. A supportive male presence
during a survivor's recovery, however, can be invaluable.
Because men rape. Men commit the great majority of all
sexually violent crimes. Even when men are sexually
victimized, other men are most often the perpetrators.
Because men are raped. We don't like to think about it,
and we don't like to talk about it, but it's a fact. Studies
show that a staggering 10-20% of males are sexually violated
at some point in their lives. Men are not immune to the
epidemic of sexual violence. Nor are male survivors safe
from the stigma that society attaches to survivors of rape.
When reporting the assault, male survivors are often
doubted, called gay, or blamed for their own victimization.
Frequently, they respond, as do many female survivors, by
remaining silent and suffering alone.
Because rape confines men. Taking into account that the
majority of victims know the men who raped them, it becomes
virtually impossible for women to distinguish "safe guys"
from men who are dangerous and therefore a "potential
rapist." The result is a society with its guard up.
Relationships with men are approached with fear and
mistrust. Intimacy is limited by the constant threat of
Because men can STOP rape. Rape is using sex as a weapon
for power and control. For rape to stop, men must be
empowered to make different choices. All men can play a
vital role in this process by challenging rape-supporting
behaviors and by raising awareness about the damaging impact
Every time a man's
voice joins those of women in speaking out against rape, the
world becomes safer for all us.
"Why Should Men Care About Rape" handout created by Men Can Stop