Interview Stress and
Anxiety
Even
thinking about your upcoming interview has you on edge. Practicing for
it stresses you out.
Getting dressed and ready to go for it makes you want to go back to bed.
In actually beginning the interview, you want to look for a place to
hide. You have a bad case of interview
anxiety. You know what this stress is all about. It
whacks you right upside the head. And you know what bad things it
can do to your chances of having a successful interview. Tons of bad
things.
The Stress Of Interviewing
What do you call this anxiety? It's been referred to in many
ways, and has many variations and degrees of severity. Here are some of
the more common names:
- Performance
anxiety
- Acting
panic
- Interview
anxiety
- Interview
panic
- Choking
- Nerves
- Nervous
apprehension
- Speaking
anxiety
- Actor's
nerves
- Show
and tell stress
- Fear
of performing
- Shyness
- Social
inhibition
- Social
anxiety
The Facts About Interview Stress
It's reassuring and powerful to realize these essential truths about
what scares you. The first step to getting this fear response under
your control is to demystify it.
- Interview
stress is normal. If you're human, you're going to get it.
- Interview
stress hits most people, even experienced performers.
- You
will never completely conquer interview stress, yet you can manage it.
- The
more mind tools you have to beat interview stress, the better you will
perform.
- People
interview fine all the time--even though they are suffering from
interview stress during the actual interview.
- Beating
interview stress is not about being perfect or about being fear-free.
It's about adjusting and managing your anxiety and using it to fuel your
performances. What Causes Interview Stress?
- People
rarely get interview stress hanging out with their friends. There's no
hostile audience there and no consequences if you "mess up". Add a
combative, evaluative interrogator and some importance to the situation
and you have the potential for a nice case of interview stress.
So why does it happen?
- Your
body's chemistry kicks in to get you ready to perform.
- You
may inaccurately misinterpret those feelings that you are "nervous".
- You
mistakenly believe nerves to be "bad".
- You
then worry that this is proof that you are about to fail and embarrass
yourself.
- You
then worry about worrying.
- The
negative cycle continues.
- You
selectively choose further nervousness as proof that you are panicking
and about to fail.
- All
these symptoms combine to ignite a full-blown attack of nerves.
Bingo. You have a bad case of interview stress.
The Symptoms Of Interview Stress
Here are 75 symptoms of interview stress that people I've coached
have described to me. You may want to use this as a self-assessment and
rate yourself to see specifically how interview stress affects you.
- Shaking
legs
- Wobbly
knees
- Racing
thoughts
- Irrational
thoughts
- Feeling
nauseous
- Pounding
heart
- Shortness
of breath
- Sweaty
palms
- Tingling
sensations
- Headaches
- Racing
heartbeat
- Heartbeat
may seem louder
- Poor
motor control
- Trembling
hands
- Can't
catch breath
- Flashbacks
- Thinking
something bad is going to happen
- Feeling
you will die
- General
anxiety, with no anchor
- Nausea
- Constipation
- Disconnection
with self
- Numbness
in body
- Muscle
tension
- Moodiness
- Avoidance
behaviors
- Rushing
- Freezing
- Negative
thinking
- Fearful
imagery
- Nightmares
- Eating
too much
- Inability
to eat
- Avoidance
of people
- Inability
to control thoughts
- Inability
to control images
- Breath
very high in chest
- Hyperventilation
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- Voice
may crack
- Difficulty
concentrating
- Sudden
tiredness
- Emotional
flatness
- Insomnia
- Fear
the anxiety will spiral out of control
- Breathing
difficulty
- Dizziness
- Memory
loss
- Sensory
deprivation
- Cold
palms
- Sweaty
palms
- Voice
may constrict and pitch may increase
- Dry
throat
- Negative
thoughts
- Stiff
movements
- Poor
coordination
- Stumbling
and bumbling
- Heavy
legs
- Frozen
movements
- Stiff
neck and shoulder
- Impaired
vision and hearing
- Impaired
sense of timing
- Self-consciousness
- Butterflies/queasiness
in stomach
- Cold
feet
- Shaking
voice
- Obsessive
thoughts
- Poor
balance
- Distorted
sense of elapsed time
- Tunnel
vision
- Panic
attack
- Spinning
sensations
- Blushing
- Sudden
heat in body
- Uncomfortable
feelings
- Feeling
cold for no reason
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Conquering Stage Fright
You want to create a mental training system that gives you powers of
self-regulation under extreme stress. You should have these mind game
skills:
- Learn
a relaxation system.
- Master
a self-discipline system.
- Devise
a pre-program psych-up system.
- Learn
how to adjust mentally in your performance.
- Set
your attitude so you place less pressure on yourself.
- Discover
approaches that will get you into the zone.
- Develop
an in-performance mistake-management system.
- Learn
how to stay positive under pressure.
- Find
ways to enjoy yourself when you perform.
- Use
performing as a way to discover yourself.
- Devise
ways to connect with your audience.
- Learn
to rise above stress control to inspire yourself.
- Create
the conditions to perform to your potential.
- Your
Next Steps In Controlling Interview Stress.
- Find
a coach who is an expert in this area.
- Make
sure there is chemistry with you and the coach.
- Take
the 75 item self-assessment test above to be aware of your symptoms.
- Begin
keeping an interview stress performance journal.
- Continue
performing to learn about performance psychology and you.
- Become
a student of peak performance psychology.
Finally, don't give up. The only people who fail to conquer
interview stress are those who quit interviewing. Even the most severe
cases of interview stress can be helped. Hang in there. There is hope.
* To learn more about how interview coaching can help you improve your
abilities in media situations, oral test and exam situations, and job
interviews visit Bill Cole, MS, MA, the Mental Game Coach™, at:
www.mentalgamecoach.com/Services/InterviewCoaching.html.
Managing Interview Stress: Six Quick Tips to
Keep You Cool In Conference
Here are some tips to put your mind at ease and equalize the
playing field so you don’t feel as though you’re in the glare of the
spotlight.
1.) Wear
your favorite clothes.
- The
suit that fits well and shows off your professional sense of style. The
one you like best. Your lucky suit or the one in which you’re most
comfortable.
- Same
with shoes. Go for comfort. The next thing you know, you’re getting a
lengthy tour of the facilities while breaking in a new pair of wingtips.
Ouch!
- If
the job isn’t a “suit” job, wear your most comfortable clothes that are
appropriate for a job interview. Not blue jeans, a torn Amy Winehouse
t-shirt and a Yankee cap on backward. If you look nice – clean, pressed
and shined – it shows a potential employer you’re serious about a job.
- Be
as comfortable as you can in the clothes you choose for an interview.
It’s probably not a good time to experiment with a new look.
2.) Start
preparations early.
Your
interview is at 11:00 AM. Get up at 8:00 and give yourself some slow
motion time. You don’t want to be rushed this morning. You want to be
relaxed.
Try
meditating for 20 minutes. Get in a comfortable position. Close your
eyes and block out the world. Let your mind go blank and give yourself a
few positive affirmations. There is something to be said for this “power
of positive thinking” thing.
Keep
your pace slow from wake up to arrival at the interview location. The
stress of rushing to get there on time will have you vibrating like a
tuning fork, and a good interviewer is looking for signs of stress. A
hectic morning is not a good start for a job interview.
3.) Put
your materials together.
- Bring
a copy of your cover letter, resume, recommendations, licenses,
certifications, awards and other information that might be useful during
an interview.
- Place
these materials in an organized fashion in an attaché case, even if you
have to borrow one from your brother-in-law.
4.) Skip
the caffeine.
- Or
at least cut down. If you’re a five-cup-a-day latte junkie, try cutting
back to one on the morning of your interview. Caffeine is a stimulant.
It gets you jagged and, remember, you’re presenting the cool, calm and
collected you to the interviewer so get comfortable and show them the
real, decaf you.
5.) Use
the interview as a give and take.
- This
kind of equalizes the playing field and takes the spotlight off of you.
An interview isn’t an interrogation (though it may feel that way at
times); it’s an exchange of information.
- Prepare
a list of questions that you want to ask – questions about job
responsibilities, chain of command, daily responsibilities, required
skill set and other information you need to know to determine if this is
a good fit for you. (You don’t have to take the job just because it’s
offered to you, unless things are really bleak when you look at the
checkbook.)
- Asking
appropriate questions shows you’re interested in the company, it gives
the interviewer an opportunity to talk and it gives the both of you an
opportunity to connect on some level. That’s important – especially if
the HR interviewer is doing 20 different interviews that day. You’ll
stick out as the one who asked some good questions and told a funny
joke.
6.) Follow
Through.
- The
biggest mistake interviewees make is no follow-through. If you spoke to
the manager who told you to give her a call in a week, mark it on your
calendar and make that call. If the shift supervisor tells you to come
back in the morning, be there early.
- And
if the head of HR invites you to meet her at an industry conference,
take her up on the offer. It’s a good sign that you’re in the running.
- Send
a thank you note ASAP after the interview – while your face and
personality are still familiar. It doesn’t have to be long but send it
on professional, high quality, watermarked stationery (it really
counts). Some HR coaches will tell you to send a hand-written card. It’s
one of those “play-it-by-ear” things.
Even if your self advocacy is through the
roof, you can benefit even more from properly preparing for your
interview. Here is a checklist with things to keep in mind:
- Practice
answers to the most typical questions. Think of examples you can use to
describe yourself and what you can do.
- Get
information about your potential new employer. Whenever possible, link
what you have found to the answers you are giving.
- Prepare
an attire you will use for the interview way ahead of time. Take extra
copies of your curriculum and bring a pen and a notepad for note taking.
- Stay
calm and take your time. You do yourself a disservice by trying to
answer to quickly or to fill silences in the conversation. If you need
time to think, then do so.
- Show
what you know. Talk about what your work accomplished for your previous
employer or what your skills could improve for your new potential one.
- Follow
up on the interview with a small thank you note and reiterate your
interest in the position.
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