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work with every day.
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your life time that the person next to you would
not know about you. When finished switch
papers and we will then go around the room and
reveal them (if you agree to it!!)
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Find Direction. Live Your Life Your Way.
Goal setting is a powerful process for thinking
about your ideal future, and for motivating
yourself to turn this vision of the future into
The process of setting goals helps you choose
where you want to go in life. By knowing
precisely what you want to achieve, you know
where you have to concentrate your efforts.
You'll also quickly spot the distractions that
would otherwise lure you from your course.
Click this video to find out how to set powerful
More than this, properly-set goals can be
incredibly motivating, and as you get into the
habit of setting and achieving goals, you'll
find that your self-confidence builds fast.
By setting sharp, clearly defined goals, you
can measure and take pride in the achievement of
those goals. You can see forward progress in
what might previously have seemed a long
pointless grind. By setting goals, you will also
raise your self-confidence, as you recognize
your ability and competence in achieving the
goals that you have set.
Starting to Set
Goals are set on a number of different levels:
First you create your "big picture" of what you
want to do with your life, and decide what
large-scale goals you want to achieve. Second,
you break these down into the smaller and
smaller targets that you must hit to reach your
lifetime goals. Finally, once you have your
plan, you start working to achieve it.
This is why we start the process of goal setting
by looking at your Lifetime Goals, and work down
to the things you can do today to start moving
Your Lifetime Goals
The first step in setting personal goals is to
consider what you want to achieve in your
lifetime (or by a time at least, say, 10 years
in the future), as setting Lifetime Goals gives
you the overall perspective that shapes all
other aspects of your decision making.
To give a broad, balanced coverage of all
important areas in your life, try to set goals
in some of these categories (or in categories of
your own, where these are important to you):
What level do you want to reach in your career?
How much do you want to earn by what stage?
Is there any knowledge you want to acquire in
particular? What information and skills will you
need to achieve other goals?
Do you want to be a parent? If so, how are you
going to be a good parent?
Do you want to achieve any artistic goals? If
Is any part of your mindset holding you back? Is
there any part of the way that you behave that
upsets you? If so, set a goal to improve your
behavior or find a solution to the problem.
Are there any athletic goals you want to
achieve, or do you want good health deep into
old age? What steps are you going to take to
How do you want to enjoy yourself? - You should
ensure that some of your life is for you!
Do you want to make the world a better place? If
Spend some time brainstorming
(explore brainstorming here) these things, and
then select one or more goals in each category
that best reflect what you want to do. Then
consider trimming again so that you have a small
number of really significant goals on which you
As you do this, make sure that the goals that
you have set are ones that you genuinely want to
achieve, not ones that your parents, family, or
employers might want (if you have a partner, you
probably want to consider what he or she wants,
however make sure you also remain true to
Starting to Achieve
Your Lifetime Goals
Once you have set your lifetime goals, set a
5-year plan of smaller goals that you should
complete if you are to reach your lifetime plan.
Then set a 1-year plan, 6-month plan, and a
1-month plan of progressively smaller goals
that you should reach to achieve your lifetime
goals. Each of these should be based on the
Then create a daily to-do list
(investigate to-do lists here) of things that
you should do today to work towards your
lifetime goals. At an early stage these goals
may be to read books and gather information on
the achievement of your goals. This will help
you to improve the quality and realism of your
Finally review your plans, and make sure that
they fit the way in which you want to live your
Staying on Course
Once you have decided your first set of plans,
keep the process going by reviewing and updating
your to-do list on a daily basis. Periodically
review the longer term plans, and modify them to
reflect your changing priorities and experience.
(A good way of doing this is to schedule
regular, repeating reviews on a computer-based
Goal Setting Tips
The following broad guidelines will help you to
set effective goals:
State each goal as a positive statement:
Express your goals positively – 'Execute
this technique well' is a much better goal than
'Don't make this stupid mistake.'
Be precise: Set a precise goal, putting in
dates, times and amounts so that you can measure
achievement. If you do this, you will
know exactly when you have achieved the goal,
and can take complete satisfaction from having
Set priorities: When you have several
goals, give each a priority. This helps
you to avoid feeling overwhelmed by having too
many goals, and helps to direct your attention
to the most important ones.
Write goals down: This
crystallizes them and gives them more force.
Keep operational goals small: Keep
the low-level goals you are working towards
small and achievable. If a goal is too large,
then it can seem that you are not making
progress towards it. Keeping goals small and
incremental gives more opportunities for reward.
Set performance goals, not outcome goals:
You should take care to set goals over which you
have as much control as possible. It can be
quite dispiriting to fail to achieve a personal
goal for reasons beyond your control! In
business, these could be bad business
environments or unexpected effects of government
policy. In sport, these reasons could include
poor judging, bad weather, injury, or just plain
bad luck. If you base your goals on personal
performance, then you can keep control over the
achievement of your goals and draw satisfaction
Set realistic goals: It is
important to set goals that you can achieve. All
sorts of people (employers, parents, media,
society) can set unrealistic goals for you. They
will often do this in ignorance of your own
desires and ambitions. Alternatively you may set
goals that are too high, because you may not
appreciate either the obstacles in the way or
understand quite how much skill you need to
develop to achieve a particular level of
A useful way of making goals more powerful is to
use the SMART mnemonic. While there are plenty
of variants, SMART usually stands for:
For example, instead of having “to sail around
the world” as a goal, it is more powerful to say
“To have completed my trip around the world by
December 31, 2015.” Obviously, this will only be
attainable if a lot of preparation has been
1. Be SPECIFIC!
When it comes of business planning, "specific"
illustrates a situation that is easily
identified and understood. It is usually linked
to some mathematical determinant that imprints a
specific character to a given action: most
common determinants are numbers, ratios and
fractions, percentages, frequencies. In this
case, being "specific" means being "precise".
Example: when you tell your team "I need this
report in several copies", you did not provide
the team with a specific instruction. It is
unclear what the determinant "several" means:
for some it can be three, for some can be a
hundred. A much better instruction would sound
like "I need this report in 5 copies" - your
team will know exactly what you expect and will
have less chances to fail in delivering the
2. Be MEASURABLE!
When we say that an objective, a goal, must be
measurable, we mean there is a stringent need to
have the possibility to measure, to track the
action(s) associated with the given objective.
We must set up a distinct system or establish
clear procedures of how the actions will be
monitored, measured and recorded. If an
objective and the actions pertaining to it
cannot be quantified, it is most likely that the
objective is wrongly formulated and we should
Example: "our business must grow" is an obscure,
non-measurable objective. What exactly should we
measure in order to find out if the objective
was met? But if we change it to "our business
must grow in sales volume with 20%", we've got
one measurable objective: the measure being the
percentage sales rise from present moment to the
given moment in the future. We can calculate
this very easy, based on the recorded sales
3. Be ATTAINABLE!
Some use the term "achievable" instead of
"attainable", which you will see it is merely a
synonym and we should not get stuck in analyzing
which one is correct. Both are.
It is understood that each leader will want his
company / unit to give outstanding performances;
this is the spirit of competition and such
thinking is much needed. However, when setting
objectives, one should deeply analyze first the
factors determining the success or failure of
these objectives. Think of your team, of your
capacities, of motivation: are they sufficient
in order for the objectives to be met? Do you
have the means and capabilities to achieve them?
Think it through and be honest and realistic to
yourself: are you really capable of attaining
the goals you've set or are you most likely
headed to disappointment? Always set objectives
that have a fair chance to be met: of course,
they don't need to be "easily" attained, you're
entitled to set difficult ones as long as
they're realistic and not futile.
Example: you own a newborn movers company and
you set the objective of "becoming no. 1 movers
within the state". The problem is you only have
3 trucks available, while all your competitors
have 10 and up. Your goal is not attainable; try
instead a more realistic one, such as "reaching
the Top 5 fastest growing movers company in the
4. Be RELEVANT!
This notion is a little more difficult to be
perceived in its full meaning; therefore we will
start explaining it by using an example in the
Imagine yourself going to the IT department and
telling them they need to increase the profit to
revenue ratio by 5%. They will probably look at
you in astonishment and mumble something
undistinguished about managers and the way they
mess up with people's minds.
Can you tell what is wrong with the objective
above? Of course! The IT department has no idea
what you were talking about and there's nothing
they can do about it - their job is to develop
and maintain your computerized infrastructure,
not to understand your economic speech. What you
can do it setting an objective that the IT
department can have an impact upon, and which
will eventually lead to the increase you wanted
in the first place. What about asking them to
reduce expenditures for hardware and software by
10% monthly and be more cautious with the
consumables within their department by not
exceeding the allocated budget? They will surely
understand what they need to do because the
objective is relevant for their group.
Therefore, the quality of an objective to be
"relevant" refers to setting appropriate
objectives for a given individual or team: you
need to think if they can truly do something
about it or is it irrelevant for the job they
5. Be TIMELY!
No much to discuss about this aspect, since it
is probably the easiest to be understood and
Any usable and performable objective must have a
clear timeframe of when it should start and/or
when it should end. Without having a timeframe
specified, it is practically impossible to say
if the objective is met or not.
For example, if you just say "we need to raise
profit by 500000 units", you will never be able
to tell if the objective was achieved or not,
one can always say "well, we'll do it next
year". Instead, if you say "we need to raise
profit by 500000 units within 6 months from
now", anyone can see in 6 months if the goal was
attained or not. Without a clear, distinct
timeframe, no objective is any good.
When you have achieved a goal, take the time to
enjoy the satisfaction of having done so. Absorb
the implications of the goal achievement, and
observe the progress you have made towards other
goals. If the goal was a significant one, reward
yourself appropriately. All of this helps you
build the self-confidence (build self-confidence
here) you deserve!
With the experience of having achieved this
goal, review the rest of your goal plans:
-If you achieved the goal too easily, make your
next goals harder.
-If the goal took a dispiriting length of time
to achieve, make the next goals a little easier.
-If you learned something that would lead you to
change other goals, do so.
-If you noticed a deficit in your skills despite
achieving the goal, decide whether to set goals
to fix this.
Failing to meet goals does not matter much, just
as long as you learn from this. Feed lessons
learned back into your goal setting program.
Remember too that your goals will change as time
goes on. Adjust them regularly to reflect growth
in your knowledge and experience, and, if goals
do not hold any attraction any longer, then
consider letting them go.
Goal setting is an important method of:
-Deciding what is important for you to achieve
in your life.
-Separating what is important from what is
irrelevant, or a distraction.
-Building your self-confidence, based on
successful achievement of goals.
If you don't already set goals, do so, starting
now. As you make this technique part of your
life, you'll find your career accelerating, and
you'll wonder how you did without it!
√ Goal setting
activity #1: Your retirement dinner
Imagine it is your retirement dinner.
It is an unusual retirement dinner at which your
family, friends, and colleagues stand up and
describe the type of person that you are for
How would you like to be remembered?
What do you want your children and friends to
say about you?
How would you like to be described by your
By creating a vision of what you would like to
be in the future, in different areas of your
life, you often reflect the personal values that
are most important to you in each of these
Write down on a sheet of paper what you would
like each person to say about the different
areas of your life.
At the same time, think about what is important
to you and the type of person that you would
like to be.
√ Goal setting
activity #2: Emulate someone you admire
If you have trouble visualizing your retirement
dinner in goal setting activity #1, then imagine
somebody that you admire and respect.
What qualities do they have that you admire?
Often the characteristics that you admire in
another can say a lot about the type of person
that you would like to be.
Take a blank piece of paper and write down the
qualities of this person in each life domain:
career, finance, family, personal relationships,
community citizenship and any others that you
can think of.
Write a paragraph on the type of person that you
would like to be in each area of your life.
Practice 'no limit' thinking.
Don't limit yourself by your fears, lack of
money, or a lack of time - clarify a vision of
your ideal self.
√ Goal setting
activity #3: Develop goal setting plans for
each area of your life
In the above goal setting activities you have
provided an ideal vision of the different areas
of your life, spanning career, family, and
social and personal life.
It is helpful when you are trying to create a
vision of the type of person that you want to be
to consider your life from these different
The following goal setting activity makes these
personal visions of yourself more concrete.
-Family goal setting. Do you want to spend more
quality time with your family? What sort of
parent or partner do you want to be? From this
page you can download a family goal setting
-Education. Do you want to learn something new or
become an expert in a particular area? What new
skills do you want to acquire?
-Fitness goal setting. Do you want to lose weight
or become fitter? Perhaps you want to improve
your game or remain motivated to keep training.
Do you want to remain healthy as you get older?
What steps do you need to take? From this page
you can download a fitness goal setting plan.
-Setting financial goals. What sort of money do
you want to earn? Do you want to achieve
financial freedom? If so, then how? From this
page you can download a financial goal setting
-Setting personal goals. Do you want to maintain
a positive mindset? Are there behaviors that you
want to improve? Do you want to have more
pleasure and happiness in your life?
-Career goal setting. Where do you want to be in
your career? What type of job do you want to
work in? What skills do you want to learn for
your job? From this page you can download a
career goal setting plan.
√ Goal activity
#4: Practice setting SMART goals
In the above goal setting activities you have
clarified your personal vision. You then made
these abstract goals more concrete by developing
goal setting strategies in goal setting activity
In this goal setting activity you are going to
try to develop SMART goals.
SMART goals are a proven method of maximizing
goal setting success.
Pick one of your goals. Whether you choose a
career goal, a fitness goal or a personal goal,
try to identify how you can make your goal
Setting SMART goals
SMART goals take your goal setting to the next
Setting SMART goals show that you have goal
setting skills that set you apart from others.
SMART goals are an acronym for setting Specific,
Measurable, Action-based, Realistic and
Time-bound goals - and they can dramatically
increase your chances of achieving goals.
√ Goal activity
#5: Prioritize your goals
Enthusiasm for goal setting is great - but
sometimes enthusiasm needs to be focused into
what is important for you.
A by-product of enthusiasm can mean that you set
too many goals.
This can spread you too thin and result in not
achieving any of your important goals!
Perhaps you want to
achieve financial success,
spend more time with your family?
achieve greater fitness, or
get that dream job.
While these are great things to aim for, too
many goals can be a distraction and take your
focus away on what is important to you.